What I’ve learned and what I’m still trying to understand, still trying to solve.
Introduction
Reflection: The Doors We Walk Through
Life shapes us early…family, friends, the streets, and the media all draw a picture of what a “good life” looks like. Some of us chase that picture, some drift past it, and some take a wrong turn trying to reach it. In reality, success is built from both the good and the bad: the lessons, the missteps, the grind, and the moments we choose better.
I’ve learned that life is also full of doors that slowly close. Once they shut, they don’t reopen. You never get the time back. As those doors were closing, I walked through, squeezed through, or fought my way through whenever I could. Not everyone around me made it through. Friends, colleagues, acquaintances—even family—found themselves on the other side of the door sometimes because of circumstances, sometimes because of choices. Not all of them are sad about where they ended up. If they were fortunate, there were other doors still open and they may have been able to carve out success.
As a young Black man, sport was presented as the “way out,” but that wasn’t my path. I watched people going to work with briefcases—rarely Black faces among them—but that image told me something about dignity, leadership, and possibility. It pushed me toward a different kind of grind.
Today, success to me means this: freedom; people who love and support you; ignoring the haters; having a partner who stands with you—and protecting her with everything you have. It means stepping into the golden years knowing you prepared, paid the price, and earned your peace.
I’ve seen more than I imagined, completed the bucket list I wrote in high school, and become a man I could barely picture at the start. I’m grateful for every door I made it through—and for the people who helped me along the way.
Reflections on the News
5 December 2025
News Reflection: When the Door to a Home Becomes the First Door That Won’t Open
It has become shockingly hard for the next generation to buy a home, and I don’t see the root causes being addressed. This isn’t a Baby Boomer issue—it began decades ago, and now the gap between the haves and have-nots is widening fast. We may soon have the world’s first trillionaire, with more to follow, long before housing becomes truly affordable again. I feel fortunate we caught the wave when we did, but this is bigger than our family. Because a society where young people can’t put down roots is a society slowly losing its sense of stability and hope—and every generation deserves the chance to build a life, not just inherit the scraps of an economy that left them behind. For too many, the door isn’t just closed; it has slammed shut on the ability to buy a home. If nothing changes, the doors that opened for us may stay closed for those coming behind.
Reflections on Life
5 December 2025
Reflections on Life: An American Living in Australia
Living in Australia has given me a different perspective on what a country can feel like. Coming from the U.S., I notice things here that stand out in ways big and small. It is safer, cleaner, with an impressive healthcare system—public and private, not just in how it works but in how accessible it is. The infrastructure around health, community services and even city design reflects a mindset of trying to looking after people and building community.
Australia is also a great place to get an education without being crushed by a mountain of student debt. That alone changes the trajectory of young people’s lives. It opens doors, builds confidence, and reduces and maybe eliminates the financial anxiety that shadows so many students in America.
One of the things I appreciate most is the tone of the country. Australia is quietly confident. It doesn’t shout about itself. There’s far less divisiveness in day-to-day life, and the political temperature is much lower than what I grew up with. I also admire that you don’t have to be wealthy to serve in government. Ordinary people—teachers, small-business owners, community members—step into leadership because they want to contribute, not because they have deep pockets or powerful backers.
Beyond that, Australia is simply a wonderful place to raise a family.
For me, living here is like shifting into a different gear. The volume is lower, but the quality of life is higher.
Being Arthur 